I have to admit to you that I am not the right person to ask about all of the latest cultural fads and trends. I sort of keep up, but it’s from a ‘30,000 foot view’. I am not exactly up to speed on all the details.
Case in point is Kim Kardashian. All I really know about her is that she has attained celebrity status due to her reality TV show. I’ve never seen the show so I don’t know if she sings, dances, writes or has any other talent. I don’t even know if she can act. This past week I also learned that she was the hottest topic in our celebrity-crazed culture because she apparently posed naked for an online magazine and now those photos are all over the internet.
Sunday morning I read a column in which a father explained what he will tell his sons about Kim Kardashian. The column was very good, but one of the points he made just sort of rubbed me wrong: He wrote that he would teach his sons to respect women. Now, I know what he was getting at and, as someone who has raised 3 sons, I get it. However, and I know I will catch some flak for this, it is pretty hard for a teenaged boy to respect someone who obviously doesn’t respect herself.
I take exception to the narrative in our culture today that men are basically predator ‘time bombs’ that can explode at any moment. I read and hear quite a bit about how men can’t control themselves, that they are a bunch of sex crazed animals. The truth is, of course, that some of them are, and please understand that I am not excusing any man who abuses God’s teaching on sexuality. However, the problem of sexual immorality in the world today is not just a male problem and Kim Kardashian is a perfect example. If women don’t respect themselves, then how do they expect men to respect them?
The truth is that sexual immorality is not just something that men struggle with, any more than pornography is just a “male” problem. I read statistics this week from covenanteyes.com that while some 80% of American men under the age of 24 view pornography at least once a month, 50% of young women do as well. Parents need to understand that it just isn’t their sons who need to be warned about the dangers of pornography, their daughters need to be told as well.
Our course, Christians should be well aware of these dangers as the Bible makes it clear to us. Paul wrote, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18, ESV).
Jesus warned that sexual sin was not just dependent on our actions, but our thoughts as well. (Matthew 5:28).
It is obvious that Christians should avoid viewing pornography, but there is more to it than that. Most of our culture still rejects pornography and is well aware of its dangers. Yet, many who feel that way turn around and accept other movies, TV shows, music, books and internet sites that are just as dangerous. Just because the images aren’t as graphic doesn’t mean that the message isn’t still the same, and does the same damage to the heart and mind.
Christians must guard our eyes. Jesus said, “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!” (Matthew 6:22,23). It is not just porn sites that we should avoid, but anything that promotes sexual immorality.
Additionally, Christians should do all they can to make sure they are not causing another to sin sexually. It doesn’t matter what the latest fashions are, Christians must dress modestly. It doesn’t matter what is acceptable behavior in our culture, Christians must conduct ourselves in a manner befitting the gospel of Jesus and avoid situations and places that might send a wrong message, both to the world and to weaker brothers and sisters.
God has called both His men and His women to “present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God” (Romans 12:1). This is a truth that Christian parents need to model ourselves and one in which we need to instill in our children, both our sons and our daughters.